Some of us do not naturally possess the personality or body language that is required for making a good impression on others. Body language is the biggest way that others perceive you. Overall, you should appear relaxed, confident and engaging in order to attract the positive attention you want. Try some of these out today!
Most people do not realize that their “neutral” face is boring, which is an obvious turn-off. You do not need to be beaming from ear to ear 24/7; however, it is a good idea to remind yourself to smile a bit.
Uncross your arms
Having your arms crossed signals that you want to be left alone or that you are upset. Uncrossing your arms will signal to others (and yourself) that you are at ease in the situation.
Talk more with your hands
The right gestures add immeasurably to your words. Think about how you talk and act when you’re not “on.”
Then act the same way when you’re in professional situations. You’ll feel more confident, think more clearly, naturally punctuate certain words and phrases, and fall into a much better rhythm.
Relax your shoulders
There is a balance with the shoulders: shoulders too high will make you appear nervous, but slumped shoulders give off a sad or self-conscious vibe. Try to work somewhere in the middle, your shoulders falling to a natural and comfortable height.
Straighten your entire spine—including your neck
Unless you are looking at someone who is shorter than you, your entire spine should be straight. Try to remind yourself to keep your “chin up” and your neck will straighten out in a positively confident manner.
Think before you speak
Eye contact is important, but it’s hard to maintain eye contact when you have to think. Most of us start talking and look up or down or away and then swing back when we’ve gathered our thoughts.
Here’s a better way. If you have to look away to think, do it before you answer. Take a pause, look thoughtful, glance away, and then return to making eye contact when you start speaking. Then your words are even more powerful because your eyes support them.
Claim your space
Those with a small frame naturally take up less space and appear timid. A way to counter this is to imagine that you are claiming your space on the floor. Stand with feet apart; not together.
Do not stare at the floor
Unless you are checking out the new carpeting or someone’s sparkly shoes, your eyes should be close to others’ eye level.
Take a deep breath
This is one good way to calm your nerves and make your whole person more relaxed.
Do not touch your neck or face
This is a signal to others that you are protecting yourself or are nervous.
Nod when someone is talking to you
This is a positive form of body language that will let others know you are listening and engaged in the conversation.
Lower your voice
Studies show that people with deeper voices are taken more seriously.